Okay, let me just start by saying that I know my husband ("D") well enough to know that he could never be unfaithful. Not to Tracie, and not to me. It didn’t matter, though...she accused him of cheating on her throughout the entire length of their nearly 8-year marriage. It’s called “neurotic projection” or “perceiving others as operating in ways one unconsciously finds objectionable in yourself; e.g., an unfaithful husband suspects his wife of infidelity.”
Only it was just the reverse in this case…she was the one who had a problem with fidelity:
- First, she cheated with her former lover, Bob A., while he was married.
- Next, she was seeing D while Bob A. at least thought they were still together (although D had no idea this was the case).
- She then cheated on D several times before they got married.
- And she cheated on D with Bob A. while they were married.
- She cheated on her boyfriend Tom B….twice!
- And most recently she cheated with her fiancé Chris B. while he was married to his current wife Michelle.
Here’s a rundown of Tracie's licentious behavior, along with a little background for clarity:
9/17/76 – Robert (Bob) A. married his first wife Linda. Their son was born 11/9/77, and their daughter was born 6/6/80.
1/8/82 – Linda filed for divorce from Bob A.; their divorce was final 12/7/82.
‘85 – Tracie’s former classmate Christopher (Chris) B., whom she’d known since 1978, married his first wife Niki. Their son was born ~1986, and their daughter was born ~1988.
9/7/85 – Bob A. married his second wife Patricia.
‘86 – Tracie began a 6-year on-again, off-again relationship with Bob A., which began as an extramarital affair. Bob got Tracie an apartment soon after they began dating.
8/14/86 – Chris B. filed for a divorce from Niki; they eventually reconciled…at least for now.
12/24/86 – Bob A.’s third child was conceived around this time, so either he was cheating on Tracie or with Tracie. Bob and Patricia’s son was born 9/16/87, at least a full year after he and Tracie began sleeping with each other.
9/27/89 – Bob A. and Traice had been together for 3 years when his second wife Patricia filed for divorce. Tracie always said how much Patricia hated her. Well, duh!
6/6/90 – Niki B. filed for divorce from Chris B.; they again eventually reconciled…for now.
‘89 – Tracie and D met. She was still living with Bob A., but made it very clear to D that she'd cheat on Bob with D if he was interested. He wasn’t. They didn’t see each other again for 3 years.
9/92 – Tracie and D met again. She told D that she and Bob A. had recently broken up. She was supposedly fresh out of a relationship, so they remained friends for a few months.
3/93 – Tracie and D began dating. He didn’t know it, but she was still involved with Bob A. One day, a man D didn’t know let himself in to her apartment. He was as shocked to find D there as D was to find him. It was Bob A. He and Tracie severed all ties; she’d led him to believe that they’d just been on a break. Tracie broke it off with Bob, but for months afterward, he stopped by Tracie’s apartment to leave flowers and sometimes breakfast on her doorstep, which she loved.
4/93 – D arrived at Tracie’s apartment one evening to find her upset and agitated. She tried to calm herself by flipping through a magazine, when she suddenly declared that Bob had been cheating on her during his business trips to Florida. She knew he must have a girlfriend because he wouldn’t let her accompany him on these trips. Frantically, she leaped up and shouted, “I think he’s having an affair! I’m gonna kill him! I’m gonna fuck up his stuff!” Now crying, she bolted outside and jumped behind the wheel of her car; D stupidly ran after her. She’d become so hysterical that he was afraid she’d try to hurt or kill herself or someone else, so he jumped in to the passenger side of her car. It was dusk as she impulsively sped off toward Bob’s house. Still crying when they arrived, she jumped from her car and sprinted to his front door. She pounded on it with her fists for several minutes, screaming “Come out, you mother fucker!” Luckily, he either wasn’t home or wisely chose not to answer his door. Still sobbing desperately and wanting to destroy something of his, she violently kicked her cloven hooves at two small bushes growing near his front door. She got back in to her car; her rage not yet spent, she sped off to his downtown business intent on smashing the windows. Once there, she looked for something to throw at the windows; thankfully, she couldn’t find anything suitable. Still frenzied, she grabbed a bright red lipstick from her purse and in huge letters wrote across the front windows of his business, “You’re a cheating mother fucker! Go fuck your girlfriend!” While all of this was happening, D was thinking that Tracie’s behavior was more than a little scary and extreme. Why did he stay with her after this incident instead of bolting? He felt "sorry" for her; she seemed to be so traumatized by whatever it was that the “evil Bob” had put her through.
4/93 – Tracie and her mother Sandi went to Disneyland and then on to San Diego to celebrate Tracie’s 29th birthday. Even though she and D were now in a committed relationship, he wasn’t invited to join them. He found this a little odd – and hurtful. The two spent about a week in southern California. A few days after their return, Tracie eagerly (and stupidly) shared the photos from her trip with D. As she was flipping through them, it became quite obvious that she and her mother hadn’t spent their trip alone but had been with several others. D thought I’d noticed her ex-boyfriend Clint (who lives in San Diego) in one of the photos. At the same time, Tracie became flustered and quickly placed that particular photo back inside the envelope. D asked her about the photo, remarking “That looked like Clint.” He then retrieved and examined the photo for himself, confirming that it was, indeed, Clint. Only then did Tracie confess that she and her mom had spent the entire week with Clint in southern California. She protested that it was “no big deal,” that he was her ex-boyfriend and they were, after all, still friends. She attempted to turn her bad behavior around on D by saying that it was his problem if he was bothered, not hers. Needless to say, he was pretty hurt and angry.
9/93 – Tracie and D moved in together. (I don’t know why…I’m still scratching my head over that one. Anyway…) During the early part of their relationship, she manipulated him in to enduring not only meeting but spending time with her ex-boyfriends. She’d insist that they go to their homes or even their parents’ homes. Any time he stepped out of the room, her ex would most often have his arm around Tracie’s shoulders and they’d be intimately leaning in toward one another when, staring in to each other’s eyes and exchanging hushed tones when he rejoined them. Seeing him, they’d suddenly straighten and abruptly end their whispered conversation. On the way home, Tracie would ask if D recalled that moment. He’d say yes and she’d giggle and confess that her ex had been telling her how happy he was for her in her new relationship…but that he still cared about her and wanted her back. When D would say anything to Tracie about feeling uncomfortable in these awkward situations or how inappropriate he thought they were, she’d ask him, “What’s wrong? It’s not a big deal. He’s just my ex-boyfriend. You must not be very secure with yourself if you can’t handle meeting my ex-boyfriend!” She’d challenge D's manhood and shame him in to going along with her to sit through one evening after another with her exes. Sick!
9/93 – About a week after D moved in with Tracie, she said she was going shopping with her girlfriends at the mall, and that she’d be home in the afternoon. She left at about 8 a.m. (which, in hindsight, is odd because the mall doesn’t even open until 10 a.m.…and they only lived 10 minutes away!). She instead came home at 11 p.m., sunburned from head to toe, and confessed that she’d actually gone on an all-day outing…with a date. One of her clients had set her up with her son, and she thought "why not?" They’d spent the day with his family on their boat at the lake. D was pretty pissed off and told her so, but she again insisted that her date was “no big deal” and if he was secure with himself as a man, he wouldn’t have a problem with it. Unfortunately, he’d just moved in with Tracie, and she’d gotten rid of most all of his stuff; he had very little money and couldn’t afford to move again. She knew that he was basically “stuck” and thought she could pretty much do whatever she wanted and he wouldn’t leave…because he couldn’t. It seemed like she was testing him to see how far she could push him before he’d get fed up and leave her.
’94 – One day in early 1994, Tracie and her mom went to a work-related dinner at a hotel, where Tracie took several photographs. She was sharing the photos with D a few days later when he noticed several of her with another man. When asked about the photos, she explained that she’d gone with a man whom she’d previously dated. Again, she claimed that it was “no big deal” that she’d spent an evening in the company of a former lover, nor was it a big deal that she’d kept this from D. She again insisted that if D had a problem with it, then he was the one with the problem.
9/11/94 – Tracie and D married. (I know…stupid, stupid, stupid.) She had the audacity to continue to see Bob A. throughout their entire relationship. Days after, she'd casually mention to D that she’d “stopped by to see Bob” at his place of business, or that they’d “met for lunch” somewhere. She once even gushed about having gone on a picnic with Bob in the foothills. These are just the encounters she chose to tell D about…he has no way of knowing how many times they were actually together.
8/29/00 – Niki B. filed for divorce from Chris B. a second time. This time they saw it through. Their divorce was final on 4/19/02, a year and 7 months after their filing date.
7/01 – Tracie and her mom secretly consulted with a divorce attorney, and completed the paperwork to file for a divorce from D. She also checked in to AFDC and WIC eligibility, as she’d hoped that D would abandon the kids (like her father did) once they were divorced. (She wanted his money, but she didn't want them in their lives.) She also opened a secret, individual savings account. She rethought the whole “divorce” thing and didn’t file because she’d soon be undergoing chemotherapy. D didn’t discover her covert actions until more than a year later when he found the paperwork crammed under their mattress.
8/02: Chris and Tracie became reacquainted at their 20-year high school reunion.
8/28/02: After 6 years of marriage counseling, Tracie and D decided to call it quits. Tracie filed for Legal Separation on 10/26/02, citing “irreconcilable differences.” But why postpone the inevitable? D countersued for divorce on 11/21/02.
3/03: Tracie and Tom B. were dating by now.
3/14/03: Tracie’s neighbor (D's former neighbor Al K.) noticed that a white Hummer had been parked overnight in Tracie’s driveway a few days earlier. Tracie’s “former” boyfriend Bob A. has a white Hummer. (Coincidence?) It was also about this time that our daughter began mentioning "mommy’s friend Bob” and telling me “how great” Hummers are, especially white ones. D didn’t give a shit who she was sleeping with, but Al did: he was not only friends with Tracie’s new boyfriend Tom B., but he was the one who introduced them!
8/14/03: Already married, Chris B. and his second wife Michelle bought their first house.
1/25/05: D requested that his marriage to Tracie be bifurcated; he was finally set free from that bitch on 4/29/05!
7/05: Even though Tracie and Tom B. were in 2-1/2 years in to their committed relationship, she’d met and was now dating Keith P. through Match.com (mselectricity and Pace002).
1/06: Keith P. wisely broke things off with Tracie at or soon after the first of the year.
12/06: Tom B. was blessedly put out of his misery. I’m not sure who did it, but they ended their 3+ year relationship.
3/7/08: Tracie and Chris B. renewed their friendship, and began an extramarital affair while he was still married to his second wife Michelle.
8/22/08: Learning of her husband’s affair, Michelle B. filed for divorce from Chris. As of 6/27/09, they’re still legally married.
2/19/09: Even though Chris and Michelle B. aren’t even divorced yet, he and Tracie were already engaged by this time, according to her email: "Here is our contact information … Chris B. - fiancée …” (Hey, dumb ass…it’s fiancé, not fiancée. He’s not a chick...he's a guy!)
3/7/09: Chris moved in with Tracie.
So there you have it; that’s all the relationship havoc that Tracie's wrought in the last 20+ years…that we know of. I'm sure she's left a path of destruction that we can't even begin to imagine!
And even after nearly 7 years, Tracie continues to enjoy playing the “victimized wife” and still refuses to accept her role as a “full accomplice” in the breakup of her marriage. After all, how could it have been her fault when I'm the one who lured her husband away…right? Well, as you can tell, Tracie is the one with the habit of luring married men away from their wives, not me!
Go fuck yourself, Tracie…everyone else sure has!
