"The Devil" Chronicles: Pay Date Change!!! (May-Aug '08)

Sunday, May 3, 2009

Pay Date Change!!! (May-Aug '08)

MY EMPLOYER notified ALL employees that effective mid-June payroll dates would be converted from semi-monthly (1^st and 15^th) to bi-weekly (every other Friday). Our 6/1 pay date would remain the same, but our next pay date would be 6/20 instead of 6/15. THE DEVIL was also notified of this change.

To keep my child support on track, MY EMPLOYER explained that they would deduct the entire $800 from my 6/1 check and reimburse me the difference the following week (6/13), and that they would issue THE DEVIL a single $800 check on 6/1 instead of two $400 checks on 6/1 and 6/15. THE DEVIL would then receive $369.23 every other Friday beginning 7/4:

6/1 Pay Date/Child Support $800.00
6/20 Pay Date; $0
7/4 Pay Date/Child Support $369.23
7/18 Pay Date/Child Support $369.23
7/25 Pay Date/Child Support $369.23
8/1 Pay Date/Child Support $369.23
8/15 Pay Date/Child Support $369.23
8/29 Pay Date/Child Support $369.23

Tuesday, 7/22 – THE DEVIL’s Reaction

THE DEVIL's text:

I would appreciate if you will contact the MY EMPLOYER payroll dept and find out why they shorted my 400 child support pmt this month without my knowledge and remind them that they are supposed [to] issue 2 checks, twice a month for 400, a total of 800 each month. I would like to know the outcome ASAP as I have bills to pay, Thanks

I checked with MY HR REP to get the specifics on how they were handling this, and she tracked this down for me.

1:09 p.m.: The PAYROLL SUPERVISOR from MY EMPLOYER’S Human Resources Department at our Corporate Office sent me the following email:

TOKEN - I just wanted to give you a heads up that our Corporate Payroll Department is receiving calls from THE DEVIL concerning the impact our conversion from SM to BW has had on its support payments.

Just in summary, your court order states that at the time of your divorce, it was to receive $800 per month, to be paid in conjunction with your pay schedule. While you were semi-monthly, THE DEVIL received two payments of $400.00 each month. With the conversion to BW, the payout is now calculated $800 x 12 months divided by 26 pay periods, or $369.23 per pay period. Since June had only one pay period, MY EMPLOYER gave THE DEVIL the full amount in one payment. Going forward, it will be receiving two payments per month, except for August, in which it will receive three payments.

THE DEVIL is demanding that MY EMPLOYER put its pay schedule back to semi-monthly. However, the court order states that MY EMPLOYER is not obligated to modify its pay schedule to accommodate the recipient. THE DEVIL has been very unpleasant to payroll staff, telling them that it can't buy gas or feed its children. It is also threatening to take you back to court. The Payroll Supervisor has instructed her staff not to engage in further conversations with THE DEVIL.

I can empathize with your situation, but this is something that will need to be resolved between you and THE DEVIL. Let me know if I can help in some way.

…..Actually, THE DEVIL received THREE checks in July ($1,107.69 vs. $800) and THREE
checks in August ($1,107.69 vs. $800). That’s a pretty sweet deal…for THE DEVIL! It made no difference to me, though: I’m obligated to pay $9,600 a year and this change comes out to $9,599.98. But I’m charged a $1 processing fee for every transaction, which comes to an additional $26 a year out of my pocket, so I’m not overly concerned about THE DEVIL’s 2-cent deficiet!

…..Also, keep in mind that the difference in its semi-monthly payments and bi-weekly payments is, at most, only $61.54 a month…and THE DEVIL has a housekeeper and it's about to leave with the kids on a 2-week out-of-state vacation! If $61.54 puts it at the "make or break" point, then maybe it needs to clean its own damn house!

2:45 p.m.: MY HR REP called to tell me that MY EMPLOYER’s HQ in Texas called the local HR staff to tell them not to talk to THE DEVIL anymore.

I didn’t respond to THE DEVIL’s earlier text, nor did I tell it that I knew about its calls. But here is my UNSENT letter:

DEVIL:

This responds to your 8/4 email in which you threatened: “I was paid $738.46 in child support by MY EMPLOYER in July. I was shorted $61.54. Our court agreement is that you pay me $800 per month, not $738.46 every 2 weeks. I need you to take care of this ASAP. If you are not going to have your employer pay the court agreed amount of $800, I am going to have to file something with the State.”

Your demand comes despite your 7/22 phone call to MY EMPLOYER’s Corporate Payroll
Department, which resulted in this excerpted email to me from MY EMPLOYER’s human resources department: “…our Corporate Payroll Department is receiving calls from THE DEVIL … [it] is demanding that MY EMPLOYER put its pay schedule back to semi-monthly. However, the court order states that MY EMPLOYER is not obligated to modify its pay schedule to accommodate the recipient. THE DEVIL has been very unpleasant to payroll staff, telling them that it can't buy gas or feed its children. IT is also threatening to take you back to court. The Payroll Supervisor has instructed her staff not to engage in further conversations with THE DEVIL.”

Instead of leaving such a path of destruction, why not just stop for a moment and read the Order/ Notice to Withhold Income for Child Support filed 5/24/06, which, as excerpted and inclusive of spousal support, states:

[MY EMPLOYER is] required by law to deduct these amounts from the employee’s income until further notice.

$800 per month current child support
$400 per month devil support
For a total of $1,200.00 per month to be forwarded to payee below.

You do not have to vary your pay cycle to be in compliance with the support order. If your pay cycle does not match the ordered payment cycle, withhold one of the following amounts:

$276.92 per weekly pay period.
$553.84 per biweekly pay period (every two weeks).
$600.00 per semimonthly pay period (twice a month).
$1,200.00 per monthly pay period.

The amount ordered paid in devil support shall terminate at midnight on June 30, 2006.

These orders were amended effective July 1, 2006 when devil support dropped off:

$184.62 per weekly pay period.
$369.23 per biweekly pay period (every two weeks).
$400.00 per semimonthly pay period (twice a month)
$800.00 per monthly pay period.

Through June 2008 you received $400 on the 1^st and $400 on the 15^th of every month for a total of $9,600 a year. Effective July 2008 you now receive $369.23 biweekly (every two weeks), as ordered, for a total of $9,600 a year. Pay dates for the remainder of the year are 8/15, 8/29, 9/12, 9/26, 10/10, 10/24, 11/7, 11/21, 12/5, and 12/19, which means you will actually receive $1,107.69 in the month of August.

Once again you have crossed the line,* this time by jeopardizing my continued ability to support my family. You have absolutely no business and no right to contact my employer directly; therefore, this is my FORMAL NOTICE to you that you will not directly contact my employer again at any time in the future. SHOULD YOU CONTACT MY EMPLOYER AT ANY TIME AND FOR ANY REASON WITHOUT MY WRITTEN CONSENT LEGAL ACTION WILL ENSUE.

In the future do your own damn research: my wife is not your paralegal. And stop threatening me before it bites you in the a##…because it will.

TOKEN MALE

*On 7/8 you contacted my healthcare provider and deceitfully changed my company-sponsored medical plan by lying about having obtained my authorization to do so. This preceded your abhorrent 7/18 histrionics directed at me and MY HEALTH CARE PROVIDER representative Lisa S. and was followed by your joke of an apology.

Monday, 8/4/08 – THE DEVIL’s Threat

4:19 p.m.: THE DEVIL sent me the following email:

Subject: CHILD SUPPORT

TOKEN,

I was paid $738.46 in child support by MY EMPLOYER in July. I was shorted $61.54. Our court agreement is that you pay me $800 per month, not $738.46 every 2 weeks. I need you to take care of this ASAP.

If you are not going to have your employer pay the court agreed amount of $800, I am going to have to file something with the State.

Thank you,

THE DEVIL

Thursday, 8/7/08 – THE DEVIL’s Continuing Reaction to My Pay Schedule Change

6:52 p.m.: THE DEVIL called me concerning my child support wage order. It said that it
hadn’t received its check from my 8/1 payroll check yet. I spent 14 minutes and 59 seconds on the phone with it explaining that I had no control over any of that. It whined that it was going on vacation to Washington State and needed to pay its mortgage, which is due by the 15th. It explained that it doesn’t get “paid” by MY EMPLOYER, but through the County (actually, it isn't "paid" anything...MY EMPLOYER deducts money from MY bi-weekly paycheck and sends it to a State agency—a clearinghouse—that then issues a check to THE DEVIL). I suggested that it just set up its bank account to pay its mortgage on the 15th, and to call the agency that sends it the money to find out what’s going on...but that’s between it and the clearinghouse.

Tuesday, 8/12/08 – THE DEVIL’s Continued Harrassment of My Employer

MY HR REP told me that THE DEVIL is continuing its daily harassment of MY EMPLOYER’s Corporate Payroll office in Texas. She said that they no longer answer its calls, but that it leaves nasty, threatening voice messages. They plan to take legal action after consulting with a California attorney (where it lives) to discuss filing a restraining order against it.

Friday, 8/15/08 – Child Support Payment

$369.23 was deducted from my paycheck and sent to THE DEVIL today, which is taxable as income to me that it receives as tax-free income.

Amazingly, I never heard another word about any of this from THE DEVIL.

Perhaps it was slapped with a restraining order??? : )

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Histronic Personality Disorder

My new understanding of Histrionic Personality Disorder serves to confirm that THE DEVIL reacts and communicates the news of one“horrific event” after another as it does in order to draw attention to itself and garner sympathy from its listeners.

......................oOo

THE DEVIL's Psychological Report, 10/20/03, Psychopathology, p. 14: “One of the major dimensions was elevated to the level of a personality disorder (Dependent) and another one (Histrionic) was at a level of a personality trait. Women with this combination of features have a cooperative personality style with dramatic traits, but their most prominent trait is low self-esteem. Their belief that they are less gifted or worthy than others leads to a poor self-image that causes feelings of insecurity and anxiety, especially in competitive situations. As these women have fairly high needs for attention they tend to be conspicuous and need fairly constant affirmation through approval and affection. In order to obtain affection, these women may come across as charming, outgoing, dramatic, or even seductive, most of the time, these women will present as cooperative, congenial, colorful, and in touch with their emotions, but they have a difficult time in situations where they feel alone or have to depend on themselves.”

histrionics [his-tree-on-iks]–noun (used with a singular or plural verb) 1. dramatic representation; theatricals; acting. 2. behavior or speech for effect, as insincere or exaggerated expression of an emotion; dramatics; operatics: “Cut out the histrionics—we know you're not really mad.”

histrionic personality disorder–a need to be the center of attention, always using ones appearance to draw attention, and a shallow expression of emotions.

What the Hell?!

Right about now, you're probably wondering, "What the...?"

While I've changed the names (not necessarily to "protect the innocent") and locations, I've posted a chronology of my stepchildren's mother (a.k.a. THE DEVIL) who is not only mean, but stupid--which is better than mean and smart.

Add to that several diagnosed personality disorders (borderline, histrionic, dependent, compulsive, and narcisistic, to name a few), and it is almost pure evil with no redeeming qualities.

And after dealing with its nastiness non-stop for the last 6+ years, I decided to upload its antics here for all the World to see as my way of venting without driving my friends and family crazy.

Besides, this is the only way that I can thumb my nose at that dumb bitch, so let me have my fun! :)

THE DEVIL's Court Order Violations

· THE DEVIL violated our 4/7/03 and 4/29/05 court orders from 5/23/03 to 9/29/05 (see entries) by refusing to refinance its Honda CR-V as stipulated at our April 7, 2003, Order After Hearing: “5. Remove Respondent’s name from any loan or mortgage within 45 days from this date.” Regardless, it did not.

· THE DEVIL was in contempt of our 12/5/02 court order from 10/12/03 to 2/7/06 (see entries) by refusing to provide our children’s transportation as the receiving parent as stipulated at our December 5, 2002, Ex Parté hearing. Stipulation & Order on Order to Show Cause, Temporary Order Pending Trial or Further Order of the Court; dated 12/5/02, filed 12/6/02; MEDIATOR’s report dated 1/27/03. “8. Parties to share equally all transportation for exchanges. Receiving parent to provide transportation.”

· THE DEVIL violated our 7/23/03 court order on 9/16/03 for 2 weeks (see entry) by refusing to give me – of all things – my bicycle – seriously – as stipulated at our July 23, 2003, Order After Hearing: “5. Respondent is awarded his bicycle and shall be permitted to pick up the bicycle from the former family residence the weekend of June 7 or as such other date as the parties are able to agree upon.”

· THE DEVIL has been in violation of our 12/5/02 court order by verbally assaulting me or speaking to me in a derogatory manner in front of our children on many, many occasions (6/23/03, 12/26/04, 12/31/04, 3/30/05, 9/20/05 and 2/7/06; see entries [there are many more incidents, I just haven't added them yet]). Order After Hearing, dated April 7, 2003, “Custody and Visitation; Separation Date: 8/2002, E. Parents shall not say or do anything in presence of children against other parent.”

· THE DEVIL was in violation of our 4/7/03 court order by refusing to reimburse me for half the cost of private mediation as stipulated at our December 5, 2002, Ex Parté hearing. Stipulation & Order on Order to Show Cause, Temporary Order Pending Trial or Further Order of the Court; dated 12/5/02, filed 12/6/02; MEDIATOR’s report dated 1/27/03: “Petitioner shall reimburse Respondent for its one-half share of the cost of private mediation [$300 total], the amount of which is $150.”

.....THE DEVIL's debts to me were forgiven at our 12/13/05 Settlement Conference, as cited in our Stipulation for Entry of Judgment on Reserved Issues, dated December 13, 2005, but not filed to date: “25. … In entering into this stipulation, each party waives any and all rights he or she may otherwise have to seek or receive any claims for credits, reimbursements, overpayments, underpayments, or any other such item as currently exists between the parties, including … Respondent’s claim for further contribution from THE DEVIL toward the cost of the custody evaluation, or mediation and appraisal fees, and all such other similar items.”

· THE DEVIL was in violation of our 4/7/03 court order by refusing to reimburse me for half the cost of the appraisal on our family home as stipulated at our December 5, 2002, Ex Parté hearing. Stipulation & Order on Order to Show Cause, Temporary Order Pending Trial or Further Order of the Court; dated 12/5/02, filed 12/6/02; MEDIATOR’s report dated 1/27/03: “Petitioner shall reimburse Respondent for its one-half share of the cost of the appraisal obtain on the family home [$450/2=$225].”

.....THE DEVIL's debts to me were forgiven at our 12/13/05 Settlement Conference, as cited in our Stipulation for Entry of Judgment on Reserved Issues, dated December 13, 2005, but not filed to date: “25. … In entering into this stipulation, each party waives any and all rights he or she may otherwise have to seek or receive any claims for credits, reimbursements, overpayments, underpayments, or any other such item as currently exists between the parties, including … Respondent’s claim for further contribution from THE DEVIL toward the cost of the custody evaluation, or mediation and appraisal fees, and all such other similar items.”

· THE DEVIL was in contempt of our 12/5/02 court order from 8/18/03 to 4/29/05 (see entries) by refusing to reimburse me for half the cost of our child custody evaluation as stipulated at our December 5, 2002, Ex Parté hearing. Stipulation & Order on Order to Show Cause, Temporary Order Pending Trial or Further Order of the Court; dated 12/5/02, filed 12/6/02; MEDIATOR’s report dated 1/27/03: "The parties will participate in a child custody evaluation to be conducted by THE PSYCHIATRIST. The parties shall pay the cost of the evaluation [$4,000/2=$2,000] in equal shares..."

.....THE DEVIL's debts to me were forgiven at our 12/13/05 Settlement Conference, as cited in our Stipulation for Entry of Judgment on Reserved Issues, dated December 13, 2005, but not filed to date: “25. … In entering into this stipulation, each party waives any and all rights he or she may otherwise have to seek or receive any claims for credits, reimbursements, overpayments, underpayments, or any other such item as currently exists between the parties, including … Respondent’s claim for further contribution from THE DEVIL toward the cost of the custody evaluation, or mediation and appraisal fees, and all such other similar items.”

· THE DEVIL was in violation of our 4/7/03 court order by keeping the children from me on all 2003 and 2004 holidays despite our April 7, 2003, Order After Hearing: “Parties shall share holidays with the children in a manner to be coordinated between them; the court’s jurisdiction is reserved to resolve any disputes that may arise.”

Disclaimer

I know, I know...as you're reading through all of this, you're dumbfounded. You're shaking your head and wondering how my husband got myself in to this mess in the first place. And you're asking yourself, "Why didn't he just walk away right from the get-go," right?

I know, because I've asked myself those questions many, many times. So has he. And it's taken us a while to find the answers.

But you need to know that in the beginning he was infallible. He was THE DEVIL's rescuer. It had been "abused" and "misunderstood" by every man who came before him, and he - and only he – could understand it. The only one who could protect it. And he would make it whole by making up for the past hurts that all of the others had inflicted upon it. He was its hero. He was it’s everything.

That’s some pretty heady stuff when you're immersed in it. It's also addictive. It feels really good to be someone's everything. And when you're King of the World, you are so pumped up that its easy to overlook the little things that just don't add up. And the next thing you know...blammo!

It's all part of your indoctrination: pump you up and then squash you. Like a cult recruiting new members, you're subjected to stress and fatigue; social disruption, isolation and pressure; criticism and humiliation; fear, anxiety, and paranoia; control of information; and escalating commitment.

So maybe you might understand how it came to be that an incredibly handsome, healthy, well-adjusted, intelligent guy got sucked in to a vortex of insanity...and then married it!

It took me a while, and a lot of research on subjects like Borderline Personality Disorder, to start to understand it myself, but I think that now I do.

So enjoy. There's some pretty good stuff in here. His tolerance level will astound you!

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